Jill L. Adelson, Ph.D., a research scientist at Duke TIP, and Hope E. Wilson, Ph.D., an associate professor at the University of North Florida, are currently writing a second edition of their book, Letting Go of Perfect: Overcoming Perfectionism in Kids and Teens, published by Prufrock Press. To support that effort, they want to hear from you! Go to https://tinyurl.com/TIPperfectionism to share your stories and/or advice about perfectionism. You could be chosen to be featured in the updated … [Read more...] about Letting Go of Perfect—We want to hear from you!
We want our children to strive for excellence. Whether in schoolwork, ice skating, music, art, scientific experiments, written work, or other activities, striving for excellence is usually a healthy way to develop talent. But when excellence does not seem good enough, perfectionism results, leaving children no room for error and allowing them little satisfaction in what they do. … [Read more...] about Perfectionism: When Excellence Isn’t Good Enough
Several months ago the parents of a highly gifted fourth grader, Trent, called me for advice about his development. They expressed considerable concern about his increasing unwillingness, as they put it, “to shine.” Having always performed academic tasks superbly and nonacademic ones reasonably well, Trent was entering the pre-adolescent malaise experienced by many gifted and nongifted children alike. … [Read more...] about Being a Gifted Boy: What We Have Learned
Educators, researchers, and parents often observe perfectionist behaviors in gifted students. It comes as no surprise, since these students are bombarded daily by parents, teachers, peers, and an entertainment industry that rewards them and encourages them to make the highest grade, produce a perfect painting, give a flawless performance, and gain admission into the best college. What are the characteristics of a perfectionist? Is perfectionism helpful or detrimental to a student’s success? What … [Read more...] about Perfectionism and Gifted Students